
The whole world, as we experience it visually, comes to us through the mystic realm of color.
After moving in together in an impossibly beautiful New York apartment, Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big make a rather arbitrary decision to get married. The wedding itself proves to be anything but a hasty affair--the guest list quickly blooms from 75 to 200 guests, and Carrie's simple, label-less wedding gown gives way to an enormous creation that makes her look like a gigantic cream puff. An upcoming photo spread in Vogue puts the event--which will take place at the New York Public Library--squarely in the public eye. Meanwhile, Carrie's girlfriends--Samantha, the sexpot; Charlotte, the sweet naïf; and Miranda, the rigid perfectionist--could not be happier. At least, they couldn't be happier for Carrie. Charlotte still has the unrealized hope of getting pregnant. Samantha is finding a loving, committed relationship more grueling than she could have imagined. Miranda unwittingly lets her own unhappiness--created when Steve admits to cheating on her just once--spoil Carrie's. After a heated encounter with Steve, she happens to spot Mr. Big and tells him he's crazy to get married. She's really only thinking of her own marriage. But her angry remark gets Mr. Big to thinking



Boredom is a condition characterized by perception of one's environment as dull, tedious, and lacking in stimulation. This can result from leisure and a lack of aesthetic interests. Labor, however, and even art may be alienated and passive, or immersed in tedium. There is an inherent anxiety in boredom; people will expend considerable effort to prevent or remedy it, yet in many circumstances, it is accepted as suffering to be endured. Common passive ways to escape boredom are to sleep or to think creative thoughts (daydream). Typical active solutions consist in an intentional activity of some sort, often something new, as familiarity and repetition lead to the tedious.
Boredom also plays a role in existentialist thought. In contexts where one is confined, spatially or otherwise, boredom may be met with various religious activities, not because religion would want to associate itself with tedium, but rather, partly because boredom may be taken as the essential human condition, to which God, wisdom, or morality are the ultimate answers. Boredom is in fact taken in this sense by virtually all existentialist philosophers as well as by Schopenhauer. Heidegger wrote about boredom in two texts available in English, in the 1929/30 semester lecture course The Fundamental Concepts of Metaphysics, and again in the essay What is Metaphysics? published in the same year. In the lecture, Heidegger included about 100 pages on boredom, probably the most extensive philosophical treatment ever of the subject. He focused on waiting at train stations in particular as a major context of boredom.[12] In Kierkegaard's remark in Either/Or, that "patience cannot be depicted" visually, there is a sense that any immediate moment of life may be fundamentally tedious.
Without stimulus or focus, the individual is confronted with nothingness, the meaninglessness of existence, and experiences existential anxiety. Heidegger states this idea nicely: "Profound boredom, drifting here and there in the abysses of our existence like a muffling fog, removes all things and men and oneself along with it into a remarkable indifference. This boredom reveals being as a whole."
Really a grand wedding ceremony i ever attended. serious ceremony during the garden wedding, then FIFA dinner night. how come i said it FIFA night..cos the presentation of the 1st dish is a guy playing his football with Brazil's jersey..hahah..and we're arranged to be seated at table 15 which names NETHERLAND!!! my boss ..Marnix keep looking for the dutch player to serve us but too bad..they arranged italia for our table...
问题一:你爱我吗?
错误答案A:'爱。'
错误答案B:'这还用问吗?'
错误答案C:'你烦不烦啊?
标准答案:目光怜爱的望着对方三秒,然后神情的点一下头,同时发出'嗯'的声 音,然后一把把她揽在怀里......
解析:答案A会让她觉得你太不严肃了,纯粹胡弄她;答案B会让她觉得你对她的爱不够坚定,而且她一定会喋喋不休的问到底,让你给她明确的答案,够你烦的;答案C过 后一定是一顿大架或冷战。其实女人对男人是不是爱她这件事儿心里特有数,她这么问纯粹就是撒娇调情,你抱抱她亲亲她比回答什么都让她高兴。
问题二:你看我这件衣服好看吗?
错误答案A:'挺好看的。'
错误答案B:'还行。'
错误答案C:'真好看,我老婆穿什么都好看。'
标准答案:来来来,转一圈让我看看......'待她害羞的转完一圈后,把她拉过来,拉 着她的手微笑的看着他说:'真挺好看的。
解析:答案A会让她觉得你应付她;答案B会让她觉得没自信,在她心里她穿什么你都 应该觉得好;可是如果真说好看,像答案C一样她又会觉得你花言巧语不真诚。所以啊,你要表示出对她提的这个问题的认真程度,必须要仔细的看看再说。
问题三:在她把她的闺蜜介绍给你认识之后,回到家她问:'你觉得我这朋友怎么样 啊?'
错误答案A:'挺漂亮的。'
错误答案B:'不怎么样,比你差远了。'
错误答案C:'我都没怎么注意她。'
标准答案:我觉得她对你挺真诚的,应该好好珍惜这样的朋友。
解析:答案A纯粹是没事儿找抽型的,女人是绝不能允许你在她面前说别的女人好的(当然,母亲除外。);答案B听着就太假了;答案C你一定觉得回答得挺高明的吧,她压根儿就不会信,而且她会展开想像分析你为什么不愿意对她的朋友进行评价。所以,要避开问题,转个弯儿回答,让她觉得你一切都是为她着想,她会有被呵护照顾的感觉。
问题四:你觉得我胖了吗?
错误答案A:'没胖。'
错误答案B:'好像是胖了。'
错误答案C:'呦,是不是最近太累啊,怎么都瘦成这样了?'
标准答案:过来让我抱抱,等抱过之后你再说:我就喜欢你这样的,有点肉。
解析:答案A回答得太干脆了吧,她听着不过瘾。答案B纯属找骂,女孩子怎么能喜欢听别人说她胖呢?即使你再三强调你喜欢胖的,她还会不高兴;答案C听着都那么虚伪,现在的女人哪那么好蒙啊。其实,在女人的心里,她还是希望男人不在乎她的胖瘦,虽然嘴上说为了你减肥,其实是为了自己更漂亮,能穿更多好看的衣服。所以你用肢体语言表示出你喜欢她有点儿肉就可以了。
问题五:我和你前女友比起来,你更喜欢哪一个?
错误答案A:'废话,当然是你了,要不然干吗跟你在一起。'
错误答案B:'嗯,怎么说呢,如果让我说实话,各有千秋吧。'
错误答案C:'她比你差远了。'
标准答案:狠狠的咬她一口或亲她一下或捏她的小脸蛋,等到她撒娇的嗷嗷叫的时候
你就说:'下次再问这种无聊的问题,还得这么惩罚你。'
解析:答案A也太生硬直接了吧,她接下来就会问:'那你以后碰见比我好的是不是也得把我踹了啊?'答案B您就等着分手吧,忒实在了也。答案C听上去还不错,但你这不是抽自己嘴巴嘛,你说自己前女友不好会让女人很得意而降低了你自己的身价。其实在女人心里,她特别希望你的前女友是个特别优秀的女人,而偏偏是你不愿意跟她好了,这样女人心里会有成就感的。可是你又不能直接说前女友有多好,所以就用她喜欢的方式来回避问题吧(至于她是喜欢你捏她的脸蛋儿还是咬她一口我们就不知道了)。
问题六:如果我和你妈妈同时掉进水里,你会救哪一个?
错误答案A:'你有聊无聊啊?'
错误答案B:'一块儿救。'
错误答案C:'宝贝儿,别难为我,再说这种情况也不会发生的。'
标准答案:哦,我没告诉你吧,我妈是游泳健将。
解析:虽说问这个问题确实很无聊但你也不能像答案A那样,这会引来喋喋不休的争吵;答案B她一定会不甘心的追问下去,你不想清静清静吗?答案C听上去还不错,但还是很牵强。不如就幽默一回,别让她一天到晚的老杞人忧天没事儿找事儿了。
问题七:如果我老了难看了你还会爱我吗?
错误答案A:'不可能,你老了也好看。'
错误答案B:'女人不同的年龄段有不同年龄段的魅力......'
错误答案C:'没事儿,你老了我也好不到哪儿去,咱俩谁也别嫌弃谁。'
标准答案:我巴不得你难看点儿老点儿呢,这样放在家里多放心啊。
解析:答案A她听着也高兴,但心里知道这是绝对不可能的;答案B就赶紧打住吧,唐僧来了;答案C不就说她老了肯定不好看了嘛,她怎么能接受呢?所以啊,最聪明的答案就是既让她打消顾虑又让她知道你特别在意她特别怕失去她。
In practice, each will try to highlight his or her sterling qualities to the other; and being so engrossed in love, they tend to accept each other at "face value" only. Each lover will not disclose the darker side of his or her nature for fear of losing the other. Any personal shortcomings are discreetly swept under the carpet, so to speak, so as not to jeopardise their chances of winning each other. People in love also tend to ignore their partner's faults thinking that they will be able to correct them after marriage, or that they can live with these faults, that "love will conquer all".
However, after marriage, as the initial romantic mood wears off, the true nature of each other's character will be revealed. Then, much to the disappointment of both parties, the proverbial veil that had so far been concealing the innermost feelings of each partner is removed to expose the true nature of both partners. It is then that disillusion sets in.
Material Needs
Love by itself does not subsist on fresh air and sunshine alone. The present world is a materialistic world and in order to meet your material needs, proper financing and budgeting is essential. Without it, no family can live comfortably. Such a situation aptly bears out the saying that "when poverty knocks at the door, love flies through the window". This does not mean that one must be rich to make a marriage work. However, if one has the bare necessities of life provided through a secure job and careful planning, many unnecessary anxieties can be removed from a marriage.
Gandhi's remarks:

Billy Elliot...a very old movie which i watched in year 2000 with one of my very old friend ...almost forgot the movie name..but this movie really impressed me and do make me cried..haha..this is the 1st movie we went together..and he almost fall asleep..glad to hear from him again recently..there is lot of memories flashing back ...
In 2012 the center of the Galaxy is at 0 degree of the Western zodiacal sign Capricorn. 0 degree Capricorn is the point of the zodiac where the Sun is during the December solstice.
At December 21, 11.12 GMT during the December solstice the Sun is at the exact center of the Galaxy. According to the Mayas the center of the Galaxy is the cosmic womb: the place of dead, transformation, regeneration and rebirth. This moment shows the end of their calendar.
To the left you see a picture on how the Milky Way appears in a part of the world that has no problems with light pollution.
Below you see a picture of the center of the Galaxy. The picture shows a light cluster of stars. Underneath these light stars (a bit to the right) you see a circle of stars that surrounds a dark part of the sky. This dark part is a gigantic black hole which is the center of the Galaxy. This dark hole is a region of immense spiritual power.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THE ASTROLOGICAL CHART
The Sun is at 0 degrees Capricorn, the point of the December solstice. It makes a sextile to Neptune, right at the beginning of Pisces. This is an almost exact sextile. The orb is less then half a degree. This aspect can point towards a spiritual experience, a loss or both.
The most important configuration is a yod which we find in the chart. This is also called the Finger of God. It looks like an arrow in the chart and it indicates change and transformations. .
The yod consists of:
1. A quincunx (150 degree aspect) between Jupiter and Pluto.
2. A quincunx between Jupiter and Saturn.
3. A central opposition (180 degree aspect) made between Jupiter and the Mercury/Venus conjunction.
The two quincunxes are almost exact, they have an orb of less then half a degree. In fact the quincunx between Jupiter and Pluto is exact at December 21 2012.
THE MEANING OF THE ASTROLOGICAL CHART
Pluto is the planet of radical transformation, death and rebirth.
Saturn is the planet of the earthly realm and of learning experiences, especially those of a more painful nature.
Jupiter is the planet of expansion. It is the focus of the yod, the planet which receives the strong energy of the other planets involved. It also expands the energy of the other planets involved (especially Saturn and Pluto).
This yod indicates transformational processes which can be painful for many.
Jupiter has a central place in this because it is the focal point of the energy. This indicates changes in our religious systems, beliefs, philosophical systems. These fall under Jupiter.
Another notable configuration is the T-square with Neptune as focal point:
Therefore Neptune, the planet of spirituality, ascension, confusion and floods is a crucial planet in this chart.
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'


